My wife, Sonia, and I were of different opinions about how much identifying information to reveal to the donors. I had no problem with revealing my family's medical history for four generations but sending the recipients our full names, address and photos made me uncomfortable.
The lawyer had built this information into her standard embryo donation contract. I was not legally responsible if no children came of this donation, or if the resulting fetus was disabled or didn't make it to term or grew up to rob a bank.
While we all waited I wondered how open to be with the recipients. Our contract set minimum standards but we were free to go above those limits. On this issue my wife and I disagreed. I'll tell you why next time.