Friday, June 8, 2007


Each day my recipients did an early home pregnancy test and each day they wrote to us to say the result was negative. We appreciated them involving us in their pregnancy attempt but we did not expect it. The embryos were no longer ours. The recipients had a contractual obligation to notify us if they gave birth, but they were under no obligation to tell us anything else before the baby came.

As each day passed with no indication of pregnancy it seemed likely that the recipients were not pregnant. Still, there was a reason the doctor schedules the test for two weeks after the transfer: that's when enough hormones should be present to truly indicate if a pregnancy had occurred. Until that date it was entirely possible that the negative results simply indicated it was too early to tell.

The day before their final pregnancy test was scheduled at the doctor's office we did not get the daily update from our recipients. It seemed clear to us from this that the last home pregnancy test had been negative.

Several days passed with no word. Had they rescheduled their doctor's visit? We gave the recipients their space and privacy. This was their family and their business, not ours. Several days after their last email, we received this message, sent to a dozen members of their immediate families:

"We had our blood test completed today and received a call back confirming
that we are not pregnant but wanted to send a thank you to all those who were so supportive and thoughtful during this whole process. It would be much harder without the great support system we have. We are truly lucky to have such great family and friends.

We are still not down for the count! We will be trying again hopefully late Spring early Summer! So until then we are counting our blessings and saving our quarters for next time."

We were disappointed for Jenny and Erin. They had been waiting so long to become moms. We had hoped to help them and we still might, but not yet.